right?? i hate the stigmatization around paying for sexual services. there is nothing disrespectful or gross or embarrassing or pathetic about paying a sex worker for their services. like sooo many of my clients could (& do) have sex w/ attractive women w/out paying for it but they like the idea of a quick/no strings transaction where everybody knows where they stand & everybody is getting what they want from the arrangement. some of my clients are disabled or extremely socially awkward & self conscious & bad at talking to women, does that mean they shouldn’t be allowed human contact or sex? like are you only deserving of those things if ur able bodied & confident? 

i think there’s much less of a stigma around paying for porn than there is around seeing fsswers but freeloading porn from tube sites just screams hello i’m cheap & nasty & jerking off into a sock while actually subscribing & paying for customs from ur faves & generally buying ur porn has 0 negative connotations & the only thing it screams is “hello i can afford to buy porn”. the problem being it’s so easy to view stolen porn that even if there was 0 stigma around paying for porn (which there’s not rly) ppl would still freeload